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Sex, Kink & Non-Monogamy Coaching — online across Australia, in person in Sydney.
(Previously ENM Australia).
Opening a relationship, untangling jealousy, exploring kink, building a D/s dynamic — whatever brought you here, you don't have to work it out on your own. Work with a certified sexologist who has lived it, taught it, and coached hundreds of people through it.
How I Help
Non-Monogamy Co is an Australian coaching practice founded by certified sexologist James Buckley. It offers online and in-person support for ethical non-monogamy, polyamory, jealousy, kink, BDSM and D/s relationships — for individuals and couples alike.
Online or in the room
Most clients work with me by video from anywhere in Australia. If you're in Sydney, come see me in person in Newtown and Glebe. I also travel nationally to run workshops on non-monogamy, jealousy and D/s — so if your group or event needs a facilitator, get in touch.
Opening Up & Polyamory
Most people find me when a relationship is changing shape. Maybe you're opening up for the first time, dating as a couple, or already deep in a polycule and want it to run more smoothly. We work on the actual reality — agreements, boundaries, communication, and the feelings underneath all of it.
Working Through Jealousy
Jealousy is the thing almost everyone worries about, and almost nobody talks about well. It's not a character flaw and it's not a dealbreaker — it's information. I'll help you read what it's telling you and build the security to move through it.
Kink, BDSM & D/s
For clients exploring kink, deepening a BDSM practice, or building a dominance and submission dynamic with care and skill. Grounded, judgement-free, and safety-first.
Practitioner Support
For therapists, counsellors and relationship coaches looking to better understand alternative relationships.
SW Support
For those doing SW for the first time, those with experience and those that date SWers.
Learn With Me Online
Private relationship coaching and sexology sessions are tailored to your individual needs, relationships and goals. I help individuals and couples better understand love, sex, intimacy and connection, while exploring what may be possible for their relationships.
Alongside private coaching, I share practical relationship and sexology education with people around the world through articles, workshops, talks and interviews, with self-paced online courses coming soon.
Not ready to book a coaching session? Visit the Learn hub to explore free resources and start learning at your own pace.
What others are saying
"James is an exceptional sexologist."
"James holds a truly safe, inclusive and supportive space for couples and individuals to explore, understand and navigate ethical non-monogamy with confidence and compassion."
- Ali S, Google Review
"I would highly recommend him"
"James is a great active listener, curious without making assumptions and authentic in how he conducts himself both professionally and personally."
- Oliver M, Google Review
Frequently Asked Questions
What does a non-monogamy coach do?
A non-monogamy coach helps individuals and couples navigate open relationships, polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy. That covers the whole arc — the first tentative conversation about opening up, the jealousy that may surface, the agreements that keep everyone steady, and the communication skills that make the rest possible.
Can I see James in person?
Yes. In-person sessions run in Sydney, and I travel across Australia to run workshops. Everything else happens online by video, wherever you are.
Do you only work with non-monogamous people?
No. Most of my clients are exploring or living some form of non-monogamy, but plenty come for kink and BDSM, D/s dynamics, or general sex and relationship coaching — including monogamous couples wanting to work through jealousy. You don't need a label to book.
What is a sexologist, and is James one?
A sexologist is a trained specialist in human sexuality — sexual health, function, behaviour and relationships. Yes, James is one: he's certified through the Somatic Institute in San Francisco.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
Not quite — and for a lot of people, that's the point. Coaching is practical and forward-looking: you often leave with tools, homework and a game plan, not just insight. Plenty of clients come to coaching precisely because they want that structure and momentum.
Can I book a free introductory call?
I offer free 15-minute introductory calls to learn more about your needs, understand your unique situation and answer any questions you may have before booking.
To get started, click the Book a Session button anywhere on the site to view current availability and choose a time that suits you.
Support for Non-Monogamy, Kink and Jealousy
Set out on an extraordinary journey with me at Non-Monogamy Co, where diversity is embraced and experience runs deep. As a certified sexologist and relationship coach in Sydney, I support people exploring non-monogamy, kink/BDSM and LGBTQI+ relationships — including those involved in sex work and those dating sex workers.
Via video consultation or face-to-face sessions in Sydney, I offer a warm welcome to those navigating the complexities of polyamorous relationships. I understand the exciting aspects and challenges that come with ethical non-monogamy, and provide a place of understanding for individuals to explore, grow, and strengthen their connections.
At Non-Monogamy Co, I recognise that each relationship is as unique as the people in it. From the heart of Sydney, my workshops and education are tailored to your specific needs, fostering an environment where you can explore, learn, and build meaningful connections without judgement.
Whether you're seeking guidance in a queer relationship, exploring the dynamics of polyamory, delving into kink/BDSM, or entering Sydney's non-monogamy community, I'm here to help you build fulfilling and authentic connections. Welcome to a space where your relationships can flourish.
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Sex and Relationship Coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer therapy, psychotherapy or medical advice.
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